Winning With People

Teaching a class on relationships in the Pre-Release Dorms at our local jail. Why? Because doing nothing is not an option. It’s easy to talk about the bad part of town, but harder to sponsor an addict, mentor a child, or lead a class or small group at the local jail. Besides, you might learn something yourself. Learning a lot with this group. Here’s the outline of relationship principles that we are teaching on Wednesday’s. They are mostly from the book Winning With People by John Maxwell.
  1. Who we are determines how we see others.
  2. The first person we must examine is ourselves.
  3. Hurting people hurt people and are more easily hurt by people.
  4. Never use a hammer to swat a fly off someone’s head.
  5. We can lift people up or take people down in life.
  6. The entire population of the world – with one minor exception – is made up of other people.
  7. Instead of putting others in their place, we must put ourselves in their place.
  8. Each person we meet has the potential to teach us something.
  9. People are interested in the person who is interested in them.
  10. Believing the best in people usually brings the best out of people.
  11. Caring for people should precede confronting people.
  12. Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
  13. Never let the situation mean more than the relationship.
  14. When Bob has a problem with everyone, Bob is usually the problem
  15. Being at ease with ourselves helps others be at ease with us.
  16. When preparing for battle, dig a hole big enough for a friend.
  17. All relationships need cultivation.
  18. Find the 1% we agree on and give it 100% of our effort.
  19. The journey with others is slower than the journey alone.
  20. The true test of relationships is not only how loyal we are when friends fail, but how happy we are when they succeed.
  21. We go to a higher level when we treat others better than they treat us.
  22. When we help others, we help ourselves.
  23. All things being equal, people will work with people they like. All things not being equal, people will work with people they like.
  24. Working together increases the odds of winning together.
  25. In Great relationships, the joy of being together should be enough.

Posted on May 11, 2011, in Bridge Church, Leadership, Ministry. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Dear Lane,
    Thank you for this program reaching prisoners in our local jails. My sister Carlynn will be sentenced on May 24th for 3 dui’s. Please be in prayer for her, her last name is now McNeeley.
    Sincerely,
    Joy

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