I’ve started the practice of writing my family a letter at key moments in our lives. It’s an opportunity to leave a signature on their story and bless them concerning their futures. It gives me an opportunity to think and pray about their passions and desires and dream about how God may be shaping their lives. I also think about the weeds in their lives that I can pray away and with God’s help lead them out of. The idea for men has been popularized in some circles by a great book called Letters From Dad. I’ve found writing to be cathartic and challenging. A journal is a great accountability partner and spiritual marker. It is also one way I hope to leave a spiritual heritage to my boys. Here is a portion of Hudson’s birthday letter that I wrote a few weeks back. I’ve shared a few of my letters to Jack and a portion of one of my Valentine’s Day letters to Heather in the past.
Can’t believe you are four already! Your life has gone by thus far just like you live it – VERY FAST! You do everything with great joy and intensity. And you already inspire me with your ability to make fun out of absolutely every situation, smile and laugh even through your pain, and process situations like a professional spy. God is going to use you in incredible ways. I pray that you keep your rubber ball like, physical toughness. I also pray that you keep your love for your big brother Jack. He’s always looking out for you. I’m thankful for your zeal for all your friends. I pray that you don’t follow too quickly, but develop the will to lead others off of the wrong path. I’m also praying that you keep your desire for excellence, but learn to handle failure with resolution instead of surrender. Hudson, I’ve never met a boy like you and I’m certain that many will look at you as a man and say the same thing. At three years old you’ve made me think with your deep thoughtful questions, forced me to get back in shape with your speed and desire for physical play, and you’ve given me a hunger to be a better husband and dad as I think about your potential. I love you no matter what! I’m praying for you everyday! I’m thankful that God has placed you in my life!